Single Moms’ Club
A letter written to myself published in hopes of inspiring someone else ...
If you were anything like me as a teenager, you would’ve had your entire life planned out and was confident that nothing or no one could stand in the way of it. I had my life drawn out all through grandparent-hood Haha! Seriously!
I remember wanting to graduate college, start a career and be married by 25, be fruitful and enjoy endless trips around the world. I had no idea that life getting in the way of those plans could happen. Soul searching and finding myself was not exactly on my list. Where was I going to find time to seek within and find my purpose in life while following my strict quest towards “success”? Absolutely nowhere.
There was nothing wrong with what I thought I wanted then, but of course as I grew older, I quickly learned that life doesn’t always go as we plan. After entering a relationship and motherhood at a fairly young age, soul searching and finding myself were the furthest from my mind. I just didn’t feel I had the time for it.
After leaving my last relationship, it then hit me that I have yet to truly find what I wanted in life. I wasn’t able to find my spark, my purpose or happiness outside of motherhood or being with my, then, fiancé. I just realized after my last relationship, how important taking time to be alone, in total solitude, truly was. So fast forward to today, I’ve found so much joy in being apart of the single moms’ club.
Sure, as a mother, being single is not exactly ideal. However during this journey of self searching, I've found the good in waiting a substantial amount of time before entering a new relationship. I personally waited a few years before even considering stepping into a new one. I’m grateful to have learned early in life that God’s plans for me are far greater than my own.
During these years of being alone, I've been able to find myself and grow into the woman I need to be for God, myself, my son and future partner. I've learned my value and self-worth. I've been able to figure out what I want in life for myself, what truly makes me happy & more importantly how to love myself.
I've done almost everything that I'll want to do with a partner, all alone and I'm pleased overall. From traveling, seeking God, learning new things, &accomplishing goals.
My relationship with God is top priority and my spiritual life has grown tremendously. I know that no one can express more love to me than God. He's been my main focus through every aspect of my life. That's essential being that I have a very bright, brilliant, rapidly growing child looking up to me.
When the right guy for me comes along I'll know all I have to offer in the relationship & how to love and support him after learning to love and support myself first. Whenever God agrees and send that special someone, I’ll be ready, no rush. In the meantime, I’m joyful, living and enjoying my plans to have no plans! ;)
"And the Lord will continually guide you, and satisfy your soul in scorched and dry places, and give strength to your bones: And you will be like a watered garden, And like a spring of water whose waters do not fail." Isaiah 58:11